Moderators are going to want to batten down the hatches here. This is very likely going to cause trouble.
But it has to be posted. It has to be discussed. And the men who aren’t utter troglodytes are going to have to start to take responsibility as well.
Content Warning: it opens with harshly abusive sexist language. It gets worse. Don’t watch this if you’re in a fragile place!
“Fuck you you fucking whore. Fuck you”.
A text I received from a colleague I was told was “too valuable to reprimand".
I’m so tired of sitting through “Women in tech” panels where women are told what they can do to survive in the tech industry. The ones where women are coached on confidence, on negotiating, on resilience, on not shrinking. The implicit message: the problem is fixable if women just try harder.
This talk isn’t that.
This will be an uncomfortable account of what men actually said and did to one woman, over one career. Ask any woman in the room. They’ve got similar stories. This isn’t uncommon, it’s a fucking Tuesday.
I’m not going to suggest solutions. That’s on the men in the audience. I ask you to reckon with what is happening around you. Talk to your friends about it. See it, say it, fucking sort it.
Jo Franchetti
They didn’t reprimand him because he’s too valuable.
Fuck all of that. Fuck them. Fuck the men that don’t say anything.
I worked at a company that had a person that was “too valuable to reprimand”. He was abusive to everybody, concealed key information about the product jealously so he could never be replaced, and generally was a “broken stair” of the worst sort. I don’t think he did anything particularly valuable that couldn’t be worked out by someone else when he wasn’t there to interfere, but what do I know? I’m not in the C suite.
