People like my ex-girlfriend (who is also my ex-friend) describe them figuring out their identity as “having a gay/trans ‘phase’ once”. I get trying to figure out your identity, but something irks me about calling it a “phase”. Even if it’s how you describe it, it just feels to me like being trans or gay is just a phase and you’ll grow out of it.

My ex-girlfriend turned out to be straight and anti-transition anyway…

I had another ex-girlfriend who she and her friends blocked me. Her friends were talking about orientation, and I was a lesbian at the time (now omni/gay/homoflexible trans man). Then, the friends were just like “Oh, well I thought I was a lesbian too and had a lesbian phase until I met my perfect, loving boyfriend <3 Maybe you haven’t found the right guy yet”. They turned out to be extreme right-wingers anyway too…

Not that having a “phase” equates to being right-wing, but it still irks me regardless of your political beliefs and isn’t there a better way to phrase it? Like I would be fine with something like “You’re trans, Larry (me)? That’s awesome! I actually questioned being trans awhile back”.