so recently I was invited out to the mall by my Ex-girlfriend, the outing was going to be with her friend L and L’s boyfriend B. ex-gf didn’t invite her current BF G because G doesn’t like L in the slightest, neither does he like me because Ex-gf and I are still in touch and talk regularly. I tried to get my parents to allow me to go but they said no out of fear of B or G harming me or me harming them and getting arrested. my mom was particularly concerned about the ‘optics’ of the situation since It would look like a double date and three white people with on black person.

my parents asked me if I understand and I said yes to their face to just shut them up and not be bothered by more explanations, but really I don’t and it makes me very angry that they are so concerned about something so minor as optics. since no one else is going to care if three white people and a black person show up to the mall together. its not that deep but they are talking about how I could get lynched and how my Ex-gf will end up ‘dead with no one knowing anything’ and how white people aren’t to be trusted.

plus they’ve been pushing me to get out of the house more and ‘discover my own people and what I like’ but when I want to do that they wont let me! I hate it! they wanna be Helecopter parents to a damn 20 year old!

any thoughts or opinions are welcome and encouraged since I cant see my parents perspective no matter how much they try to explain it.