Got lucky with a girl I met through a friend’s girlfriend that I am absolutely in love with but I couldn’t get it up when things got heated. Stayed over at hers but didn’t even get morning wood the day after, only semis over night. Also haven’t had a boner for 3 days now.
She’s actually texted me back more than once after the incident, so I think she might still be ok wil me, but I feel like I should apologise or something. I don’t want to force things but I also don’t want to lose her. Should I apologise?
Also I’ve looked at porn for like 13 years and was getting unwanted hard ons with no effort literally the same week this happened. And I tried looking at porn later (to check if it was porn brain) and my dick remained soft until I touched it (even then it wasn’t like like it nromally is). WTF? Could I have got ED literally the one time I was on the verge of getting laid? Safe to say, I will not be looking at porn again.
Listen, you got nervous and things didn’t work right. It’s actually a fairly common issue. The problem is the next time not only are you nervous about the same stuff, but you get nervous it won’t work again.
Be an adult and talk to her. You don’t need to apologize, just explain that you like her and got nervous and things didn’t happen. She’s probably worried it was her. Take things slow and be patient and relaxed. Everything will work out fine.
If you don’t know what you’re doing, search for porn for women. It tends to be more “realistic” and more focused on what women enjoy. But at the end of the day just take it slow and communicate.