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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Low_Put_4561 on 2023-09-26 16:21:33.

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I (30 F), live in a big city far away from our hometown, in a very rural area. I have been pretty indepedant for ten years now: own my flat, am in a stable relationship etc… I’ve always worked very hard by myself, and if my parents supported me, they always told me that they did not think I would succeed. I’ve been lucky enough to enter two very prestigious universities, despite my insecurities.

My brother (26M) is the polar opposite. He still lives home and does not contribute despite being in apprenticeship and earning more money than I do. My mum and dad do his laundry, clean his room, prepare his meals (each night and also the one he needs during the workday), help him with his car (he practices racing which is expensive), and land him money to get a new one. Everything he is doing, my parents did it for him. They found him his apprenticeship, asking for him, they did his cover letters, they filled application forms. So now he is basically a bachelor, explaining “so fun I can go this far by doing nothing.” He’ll work in construction.

Here is the problem. He has a master’s thesis to write this year. And does not want to. He says it’s too complicated for him. He never even tried. So my mum is doing part of it, spending her evening on it and wants me to contribute to the other part. I’m kind of pissed since it’s like 100 hours of unpaid work, that they always ask me when I have a ton of work (but since it’s on my computer fuck it, it’s not real work), I’m sick of this dynamic where he gets everything he wants and never even asks (he asked my parents to ask me instead, never text or anything), does not even read what I do for him (one day I had to make a cover letter - while I was working ofc - and I left blank where I missed data, tell him to fill the gap but he sent it like this and my parents were pissed about me.

I just spent 300 bucks to get back home for a week holiday, and it’s back again with that thesis. If I say no, my parents tell me that it’s awful that I don’t help my brother to get a better life. And that I should at least do it for my mum, who is spending a lot of time writing it. Parents think I’m reluctant because I’m jealous and bitter, and it’s true, maybe I am. What should I do?

He will be hired full-time in his company, even if he does not finish his master’s thesis.