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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/OkObjective8677 on 2023-09-11 20:21:36.
I had a huge wedding earlier this summer. With an equally huge reception. My parents paid and they didn’t want it to be child free. I already knew that was going to be a fight so I just went along with it.
I bought a wedding dress from Facebook marketplace and had it tailored to fit.
The wedding was fun and noisy with babies and kids. I’m pretty sure I heard Mario Kart music as well.
The reception was loud and rambunctious with two of my younger cousins getting drink and puking. Late teens not children. Someone was giving them drinks because they were “old enough to handle it”. A baby threw up in my dress.
A few people apologized but not most. A lot of people commented on how well my husband and I took the chaos.
The following weekend we got married for real. Just our parents and bridal party in attendance. I got to wear my beautiful dress that I picked with my mom and MIL. We had the same flowers and outfits. We got married at an outdoor pavilion that I have always thought was perfect.
We posted a few of the wedding pictures and people noticed that my dress was different and that the location for the pictures was different. They were asking WTF?
I said that we wanted everyone to join us for our wedding day and have a good time but that we also wanted the ceremony and pictures that we planned for ourselves.
Some of our family and friends say that we were assholes for inviting them to a fake wedding. I think we just had two ceremonies.
AITA?
Ok, I know commenting here is pointless and I know that most wedding stuff is useless bullshit, but for the first time ever I agree with the bride. What a simple, elegant way to handle this situation.