First of all, if a friend makes you feel bad about yourself for being yourself, they’re not a friend. If a friend expects a one-sided relationship (you always pick up the check, you always host, you’re always are the one making time), they’re not a friend. If a friend is always taking potshots at you and then tells you to lighten up when you tell them you’re uncomfortable, they’re not a friend.

I was a pariah in high school so I can’t give a lot of info there, but cool adults will understand and give you some breathing room if you say you’re autistic. So if you stim or get hung up on something a neurotypical thinks isn’t a big deal, decent people will give you the benefit of the doubt. Uncool people do not deserve friendship. Better to be a mysterious weirdo than some narcissist’s new plaything.