• stephen01king@lemmy.zip
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    9 days ago

    You can’t earn it if people already decided you can’t earn it. Don’t forgive them now, obviously, but saying they cannot earn it is how you create desperation in people that pushes them towards another extreme.

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      8 days ago

      Yeah, it’ll take sincere sustained effort, but come, help fix the problem. He can talk to his neighbors and people in his life about this. The damage can’t be undone, but I’d rather less suffering than getting to be smug