Truly a pretty terrible place for any kind of social activity.

People here are super self righteous and unwavering in their beliefs, quick to insult others and be generally bitchy, pedantic and quick to dogpile. Worst of all while still usually slightly wrong about a thing, but unwilling to hear it.

It’s basically the worst parts of reddit users where we have boiled it down to the most affluent or socially insecure.

Even if it’s as simple as a question people jump to defend their position with insults rather than answer it cause they get worried the person might be confused and it’s best to just make sure it’s a closed community as quick as possible.

This isn’t an open community it’s a private gated one where everyone jumped the fence and is scared that the wrong person might have come in with them.

Condescending is not welcoming.
Upvoting cause they are your in group isn’t community.
Berating outcasts cause you at least don’t feel like them is still bullying.

  • Tedesche
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    726 days ago

    I find that if you avoid the political and news forums and some of the meme forums, you avoid 90% of the assholery that exists on Lemmy. But that’s true for Reddit as well and I think is probably just a truism about the internet in general.

    It’s not really the people, I think, that is the problem; it’s that people feel strongly about politics and when they have the anonymity and disconnection of the internet to free them from true social accountability, we express ourselves in increasingly overconfident and arrogant ways, which obviously pisses other people off and creates arguments. In other words, the internet is ideal for festering toxic debating environments. Our psychology just wasn’t meant for it.

    • @Krauerking@lemy.lolOP
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      125 days ago

      Someone argued with me and called me a lot of rude things cause I called them privileged for them saying everyone should just buy an extra computer that they can use to run linux.

      Like when I called them out on it and said it’s a lot for people to just buy multiple devices for the sake of being both on Linux and Windows if people don’t have a purpose for Linux he called me a troll and spoke down to me as if his existence and level of life was what everyone else lives.

      It’s not just politics. It’s not even the politics that upsets me it’s the condescending self righteous know it all attitude that’s everywhere in this platform. That their life is objectively the way to be. It’s pompous and that’s absolutely the users.

      • Tedesche
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        225 days ago

        cause I called them privileged

        I mean, if you cast the first stone, don’t be surprised if people pelt you back, dude.

        • @Krauerking@lemy.lolOP
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          Third message after they told me to “get gud” for not being able to buy another PC and then treating me like a toddler for saying it didn’t make sense to own multiple PCs just to have one we don’t use for Linux and he asked if he “held my little hand long enough”

          I ain’t casting many stones first unless you consider the questions and the follows up an invitation to attack.

          • Blaze (he/him)
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            125 days ago

            Hm, they still said

            If you weren’t trying to be rude and it came off that way by mistake, my bad

            But yeah, not the best interaction indeed

            • @Krauerking@lemy.lolOP
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              -125 days ago

              Yeah I was already upset by that point and they started by still doubting that I just wanted to ask a question and called me a bullshitter…

              But it’s my point. It makes conversations a fight to be right more than a conversation with no backing off. And by the end it just becomes 2 people being awful to each other for spectators.
              It feels bad from my perspective and I don’t learn anything.

              I think the platform inspires snark and winner takes all mentality.

              • Blaze (he/him)
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                225 days ago

                I think the platform inspires snark and winner takes all mentality.

                It’s really community dependant. As I said, tech communities can be quite toxic