Edit - This is a post to the meta group of Blåhaj Lemmy. It is not intended for the entire lemmyverse. If you are not on Blåhaj Lemmy and plan on dropping in to offer your opinion on how we are doing things in a way you don’t agree with, your post will be removed.
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A user on our instance reported a post on lemmynsfw as CSAM. Upon seeing the post, I looked at the community it was part of, and immediately purged all traces of that community from our instance.
I approached the admins of lemmynsfw and they assured me that the models with content in the community were all verified as being over 18. The fact that the community is explicitly focused on making the models appear as if they’re not 18 was fine with them. The fact that both myself and one a member of this instance assumed it was CSAM, was fine with them. I was in fact told that I was body shaming.
I’m sorry for the lack of warning, but a community skirting the line trying to look like CSAM isn’t a line I’m willing to walk. I have defederated lemmynsfw and won’t be reinstating it whilst that community is active.
Leigh made an analogy to how in kink communities, it’s generally not cool to involve people in your kink who didn’t consent to it, and that defederating was basically just Blahaj Zone saying that they don’t consent to seeing any sort of ageplay-adjacent content.
I’m saying that’s a bad analogy, because they could just ban the offending content if that was the only concern; instead they’ve banned the entire instance by association. I’m not saying it’s a bad call, just that it’s a step beyond “don’t involve me in your kink”, it’s now “I don’t want to see anyone who lives in the same house as you while you do your kink, even if it has nothing to do with your kink.”
It goes beyond even that, actually. This isn’t one individual making the decision for themselves, this is one individual making the decision for their entire household. “I don’t want anyone who lives in the same house as me to see anyone who lives in the same house as you, because you did your kink, even if it has nothing to do with your kink.”
At some point the metaphor starts falling apart a bit…
Ah, I see. I agree
Is it actually possible to instance-level ban a community that’s hosted by another instance without defederating? I’m under the belief that it isn’t, but if I’m wrong on that, then I think I’d agree with you here.
It is possible as far as I’m aware, I think Ada mentioned doing it before.
That makes this all so much more infuriating then!