• @bstix@feddit.dkEnglish
    9•3 months ago

    I have children, including a teen, and they have phones.

    One thing I do notice is that they’re quite a lot better at putting the phone away when they’re with friends doing stuff or at family dinners than their grandparents who keeps checking notifications and answering calls regardless of when and where.

    They grew up with phones and they have a much better understanding of when it’s socially acceptable to use it.

    They know not use the phone during class, so there’s really no good reason to ban it entirely.

      • @bstix@feddit.dkEnglish
        5•3 months ago

        Their friends are pretty good too. Whenever they hang out they do other stuff. They plan to meet for some purpose and that’s what they do. Keeping up to date on social media is something they do on their own time when they’re bored.

        It’s like they grow out of it, once they’ve seen enough crap.

        • @Modern_medicine_isnt@lemmy.worldEnglish
          4•3 months ago

          I know one family like that. Kids prefer activities to phones. But the rest not so much. The kids get together and do things in spurts separated by phone time. Usually whatever they are doing, at least one of them is on the phone. So it is really kid dependent.

          • @bstix@feddit.dkEnglish
            2•3 months ago

            I think you’re missing my point.

            I doubt the sports jocks use their phone during sports ball practice?

            Seems like a sports jock attention problem more than a phone availability problem.

          • @technocrit@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
            -1•3 months ago

            Your anecdotes and your kid’s anecdotes might not represent reality either. But somehow y’all are (violently) banning phones for everybody.

            • @bstix@feddit.dkEnglish
              2•3 months ago

              Exactly.

              I’m surprised to see users on Lemmy being this dead set on banning stuff for kids just because "we tried nothing and it doesn’t work*

              Social media is bad, phones are bad, I get it, but banning is not the solution.

              Kids will grow up in a world with both social media and phones. IMO school should prepare them and be a practice ground for it, so they don’t make the same mistakes as we - the parents - did.

              Like posted elsewhere, my kids are better at it than I am. Banning phones is projection all the way.

              I’m perfectly fine with disallowing phones during class, but an outright ban is an extreme reaction completely missing the problematic issues and potentially making it worse.