Say hypothetically I’ve already shot my shot and was shot down, how would I go about getting over this (without rebounding to other people or whatever)?

Edit: Thanks everyone, for all the comments, support, and advice! Majority rules a tie between time and distractions lol. Seriously though thanks y’all

  • @OurToothbrush@lemmy.ml
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    43 months ago

    Be proud you stepped up and took your shot and accept the reality that it did not work out. If your a male this is just a fact of life in general

    ??? This isn’t a gender thing?

    • HubertManne
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      43 months ago

      males of my age generally had to make the move. its possibly different now. I can count on one hand the girls I knew from college and before who asked a guy out first.

      • @n0m4n@lemmy.ml
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        13 months ago

        My realization, now, was that they did. I was too clueless on picking up cues to realize it.

      • @OurToothbrush@lemmy.ml
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        13 months ago

        I feel like even within the straight paradigm women do a lot to express interest and can still feel “shot down” when those signals aren’t reciprocated, outside of also asking guys out

        • HubertManne
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          13 months ago

          oh yeah. Flirting is totally different. I would say growing up girls flirted more than guys.

      • Mubelotix
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        13 months ago

        Same in France among students. Males are expected to make the move