Your comment is appreciated, and I love the vocabulary of vivagenic and vivalytic. It’s absolutely true that I’m less social in my free time than I used to be, and I could see that as a concern among the people who love me, (and I would take that more seriously - I was talking more about societal views) but I have a much more social work life than I used to, so it’s not as appealing to socialize in my free time now, plus I’m married now and living in a tiny apartment, so much of my home time is still not alone (I’ve used varieties of “social” way too much in this comment, but I can’t think of a better way to put it).

I’m going to think about your comment though, I think especially the new vocab will help me more clearly conceptualize the benefits and drawbacks of coping mechanisms.

Just stand still (if there aren’t people behind you). They’ll figure it out and you don’t run the risk of losing your balance by a stray hip check while midstep. Plus it’s mildly annoying

Colcannon is GOAT.

People really just got annoyed about you missing the context of a comment (science fiction and cultural depictions of the future) and asking clarifying questions until you got it.

It’s also frankly a hard line to walk for a man to defend one woman from another one. I think most people would prefer that someone looking to commit a violent act be prevented, but I’d assume men would be worried about the optics of physically defending against a woman, especially if you inadvertently overdo it. I’m a woman, so I can’t be sure, but I think that would be lurking in the back of my mind (and I know how easy it is for men to hurt me without intending to). Even worse, you might underdo it, leading to the original intended violence, your possible criminal consequences from your defense, and your loss of face.

“In a response to” also works, but it has the same quote connotation for me that “in a reply to” has. I think “in response” feels like an established term to me that has a separate meaning from “in” + “response,” so substituting “reply” for “response” doesn’t work for me.

Interestingly, although the Cambridge dictionary includes references to each (meaning “in reply to” is formally accepted English [funnily enough, I can understand the second usage there, for very formal written correspondence]), there’s only a full page for “in response to.”

I’m from northern Connecticut and live in (southern, nowhere near any fished lakes) Germany. I tried seafood here a couple times when I first got here, but it’s just intolerably fishy for me, even in a taco bell sense.

Though I guess frying it does mask a lot of fishiness. And LJSs doesn’t try for the cachet of “never-frozen,” so it’s possible it’s actually fresher than what you get in a fancy inland restaurant…

I didn’t agree with you at first, but you might be on to something

How do you fick up that badly and not notice it? [emphasis mine]

lol

“In reply to” is breaking my brain. Has it always been phrased like that on twitter? I feel like “replying to” or ”in response to” would be clear whereas I’m only able to make sense of “in reply to” if I infer the elision of an article. That said, even “in a reply to” would make more sense when introducing a quote or excerpt from the reply.

Unless I’m just experiencing semantic satiation because I’ve been repeating it to myself in confusion.

Yeah, I always fall for that at least twice because I think the app glitched when it just reloads the first time.

Having socially valued coping skills is honestly a trip though. I used to do community dance, and even though I was overdoing it to combat my adhd (14 hours of hard cardio a week), other people were so impressed by my “commitment.” Now that I just smoke a lot of weed, even though I do it for the exact same reasons, somehow it’s trashy/childish. Playing way too much pokemon go was a half step, where it was considered child_like_, but ultimately treated as a harmless quirk, like adult Disney fans.

I guess it’s like being a morning person (or lots of other factors that are clearly bigotry), where basically it’s just the luck of the draw and some people are assumed to be more/less capable because of random chance.

This has really been a revelatory comment chain.

It’s always hardest to find something the first time I lose it. Now I know that I’m the kind of asshole who takes my glasses (that I need to see with any accuracy) off and puts them on top of the fridge, higher than my eyeline, but I honestly didn’t expect such sabotage from my brain.

Hey guys,

I just started teaching German, which is so freeing because I finally feel like my bizarro grammar obsession is not only useful, but also welcome. The other aspects of my audhd are not as great while teaching, but you can’t win them all.

That’s actually fair. I had effective coping skills for my shit which the pandemic removed, and which I have as yet been unable to replace with equally societally accepted alternatives, is a better way to put it. Damn, I wasn’t expecting to develop empathy for myself and others through a post on c/memes, but there it is

I had my shit together for almost a full year, but then the pandemic hit. I used to think nobody had their shit together, so I didn’t feel as bad about it

That is JFK.

Did they have bribery in the form of mobile Fast Food trucks?

Basically, but not for the emperors

~172.5x as far away from the earth as the sun

I’d be careful with diagnosis in the US right now, given RFK Jr’s remarks about ADHD work camps and autism cures.