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Cake day: June 15th, 2023

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  • I manage a team of about 50. I’ve been in management for about the past decade. Prior to that, I was a technical lead heavily involved in hiring. I’ve also run multiple intern programs that hire by the dozen each summer. I’ve hired hundreds and been in thousands of interviews.

    Ive never once seen someone hired because of the color of their skin.

    I do however aggressively look for people from different backgrounds to be in my candidate pools when hiring. That can really mean anything. Mono culture is a huge detriment to the org because then everyone ends up thinking the same way. I look for people willing to challenge the status quo and bring unique perspectives while still being a great teammate.

    There are probably people I’ve hired who normally wouldn’t have gotten an interview based on their background but then were the best candidate. When I’ve had candidates that are equal, I’ve occasionally hired the one who is most dissimilar in skills/thought process/goals to my current team because that helps us grow. The decision was never someone’s skin color, but their background certainly could have influenced the items I chose as my hiring decisions.

    DEI is not just hiring. DEI is creating a culture where people of different backgrounds can succeed. There are so many different ways to be successful at the vast majority of the roles I hire. It’s my job to make sure my org is setup so that people can be successful through as many approaches as possible. This is the part I see most often missed. If your culture only allows the loud, brash to lead, I would have missed many of my best hires over the years who led in varied ways.




  • Are you me? Currently at the director level debating a switch back to dev. Prior director in my role did the same. I actually love my boss and when I’m empowered to run my org, the work is great. But too much of my job is trying to insulate my teams from the BS and it’s burning me out. But I’m not sure I’d want to give up being able to fight the BS and would eventually get frustrated by it again as a dev.

    So here I am, riding it out. I know at some point politics will get me and my style of insulating my engineers will cost me my job, even though by doing so we have great productivity metrics. And being real - I think the hardest part is that by shielding my teams from the BS, I become the face for the shit that does get through so the people I fight so hard to protect often blame me for their very real complaints.

    I’m not sure what’s next for me, but I save everything I can because I assume that the change might not be my choice.








  • Wife and I solved this by rule of 3. She gets to decide if she’s suggesting options or making a choice. Whoever is suggesting options gives 3 choices. They must be something the other potentially likes. The other then either chooses one of the three or has to suggest 3 choices of their own. We rarely have to go past the original 3 options any more.


  • Yes! And beyond being customized for what the baby needs at that given time, also includes immune stuff to help the baby fight whatever sickness the mom might be fighting at the time. So even for us, there’s a downside to not using fresh breastmilk. However, the understanding that is even with those differences, all the extra stuff breast milk is packed with make it better for babies even if not tailored for what that specific baby needs at that time.

    The other important call out - formula is fine. Many moms feel pressured on breastfeeding because of the benefits, but there are tons of reasons outside moms control that breastfeeding might not work. Or even just so much challenge with doing it (like having to wake up in the middle of the night every night to pump). It’s perfectly okay to not breastfeed and use formula, and lots of moms feel undue pressure and stigma which is unfair if the don’t/can’t.



  • Just in case other people might know since I didnt till recently, the stashed away and sharing part is normal. I have a one month old and my wife pumps so I can feed the baby breast milk when my wife is unable to breastfeed since it can be better for the baby than formula. We freeze portions of it so that when she returns to work or travels, I’ll have a stash to defrost and feed our baby. It’s kinda normal for people who overproduce to share that milk with others who want their babies to drink breast milk but are unable to for a multitude of reasons (medicines, chemo, unable to produce, etc). We may look into donation options since the milk is only good for 4 months in the freezer and it would be great to be able to help a family in need (like a mom undergoing cancer treatments) and it looks like we’re trending towards overproduction. There are services that can help with verified matching.

    The unvaxxed part is unhinged as fuck though.


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    2 months ago

    Here’s the thing … if there aren’t buyers enough to maintain the price, the paper value isn’t correct. This is an artifical scarcity, and this bill would be a bail out to the rich and leave the US taxpayers holding the bag when the market crashes. The US taxpayers would then own all this bitcoin with no way to sell without crashing the market so it’s just a direct transfer of wealth to the current holders.