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Cake day: July 14th, 2023

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  • I don’t know this sub so I hope it’s ok for a man to respond. When I first got married I think my wife definitely did most of the chores. But when I retired and she kept working, I did most of the chores. Then she retired and I still do most of the chores.

    But I have to admit I do most of the messing up. So it could be a reluctance to clean up after me. Although I’m not sure that true with for instance vacuuming, which I do.

    An additional note though is that, is it fair to only consider chores in the division of labor? I mean I do all car and household repairs (and I’d like to point out we have three cars all over 20 years old so that’s a lot of repairs). I’m also the only one who washes the cars. When the house gets painted, inside or out, that’s 100% me.

    I do most of the cooking and virtually all of the dishes. She does a ton of laundry. As a man, I only feel the need to do laundry when I’m running out of my plentiful underwear. She does laundry, I don’t know, in her sleep even. I vacuum, she picks up around the house. Etc.

    I can see that it would be a real problem if it’s very one-sided, but I think you also have to look at the big picture. Just my $0.02.
















  • You are right that we COULD do many of these things. But we won’t. We live in a society of people who deny there is even a problem. Anyone who knows it’s either powerless or looking to profit.

    Humans work on crisis management. We ignore a problem until it bites us in the face. Then we band together and defeat it. Unfortunately, when a problem exists that can’t be corrected by the time it bites us, no banding together will stop it.


  • Did you mean to respond to me because I don’t see how it relates? I assume you are responding to the thread.

    I agree with you to a point. I mean, think of how wonderful a world it could be if there was any kind of equity. People making sure everyone is fed, no theft, no slavery, etc. It’s almost traumatizing to realize we have the capacity to make this a reality, but don’t.

    I’ve come to the conclusion this is just fantasy. It’s human nature to destroy itself. People have a long history of hating people not like them. Just when I think we’re making progress along comes racism again.

    I don’t believe this will ever change. It’s a true shame.



  • The weird thing is it’s kind of more bizarre than a dystopian society. In dystopia, you know resources are scarce and that you have to defend yourself with violence. But in this actual dystopia, I can still get up and go play disc golf, pretty much without incident. There could come a day when I’m pulled over by some Nazi cop who decides to make an example of me, which face it, has been the case for some time now, but until then for little things like that, it’s pretty much business as usual despite the plummet into fascism. Very weird.