

I don’t know this sub so I hope it’s ok for a man to respond. When I first got married I think my wife definitely did most of the chores. But when I retired and she kept working, I did most of the chores. Then she retired and I still do most of the chores.
But I have to admit I do most of the messing up. So it could be a reluctance to clean up after me. Although I’m not sure that true with for instance vacuuming, which I do.
An additional note though is that, is it fair to only consider chores in the division of labor? I mean I do all car and household repairs (and I’d like to point out we have three cars all over 20 years old so that’s a lot of repairs). I’m also the only one who washes the cars. When the house gets painted, inside or out, that’s 100% me.
I do most of the cooking and virtually all of the dishes. She does a ton of laundry. As a man, I only feel the need to do laundry when I’m running out of my plentiful underwear. She does laundry, I don’t know, in her sleep even. I vacuum, she picks up around the house. Etc.
I can see that it would be a real problem if it’s very one-sided, but I think you also have to look at the big picture. Just my $0.02.
Oh. Thanks. That made me feel good. Don’t hear that often.