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Cake day: December 27th, 2023

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  • in talking to her since and getting to know how things would work out i do question how important monogamy is to me. ive come to the point in my head of being happy with her attraction to others assuming everyone keeps good communication, and even if i dont feel that attraction am still happy to make new close irl friends. my biggest struggle is with the sexual side of things for sure, and will talk about that with her asap.

    as it stands i am willing to try, and ensure my thoughts are not being locked up. if it feels completely wrong then i know where to take my leave, as vulnerable as ive been. but its an opportunity to learn about myself that i dont wanna pass up at this point. really the worst outcome is that its not for me, and that i end up with an amazing friend instead of girlfriend.

    this all isnt trying to disagree with you, you make very valid points given what ive told in my post. just sharing my feelings and what info seems relevant. your input means a lot, thank you


  • thank you for the resources. the reason i am open to the idea of couples therapy isnt due to any issue in our relationship, shes truly the easiest person to work things out with that ive ever met. its mainly to explore how trying a poly relationship would affect us and how to navigate things, coming from someone with 0 experience in that area. more of a way to gather info than to fix a problem i guess, as its nice to talk to someone about it rather than just reading/listening

    your input is very appreciated, thank you


  • Update: She said on our call that she will think about it, which is completely valid. I have concerns about specifics but that can be dealt with through conversations.

    I was obviously raised in a monogomas culture, but never had issue with the idea of a bunch of girls loving each other. I like to think im open minded, but even with that this will challenge me in ways i am not gonna be able to predict even with all the advice in the world. I appreciate those who read my post, any additional words would be nice ❤️