Hey,

so this is my first post on Lemmy, as I have decided to leave reddit.

M33 liking someone who lives in a different country F28 (not that far away with an airplane).

I am sick of dating apps where I live, so I have decided to download dating apps where you get matched with others, but they live in different countries.

So I have matched with this girl, and we have been talking for 2 days straight non stop, including sending tons of voice note.

Now I am the kind of person who could like another person very fast, especially if we get along really well, and she is the only person from this app that I got along very well.

I am trying to think rational about it, if this would ever workout or not. Although my feelings want it to work out, but there are some situations where I cannot see her very soon. One of the situations is that at the moment I am jobless and I am looking for a job.

Although we have been getting along very well, I am afraid that what we have might die soon because just talking to eachother on whatsapp or something is never enough for me. It is very important that I meet people to get a sense if this would work out or not, also doing activities and so on…

I am overthinking too much of how things could work out, although I dont know how things could work out to be honest…whenever I have this feeling of liking someone, my brain just goes crazy. If I start not having any subjects to talk about with her, I am afraid of saying something so stupid that could ruin everything.

I know its been only 2 days and I might be overreacting, but unfortunately I am a very emotional guy…what can I do?

I might just need a slap on my face from one of you to wake up lol

P.s. Sorry if my post is confusing…

  • @Lazycog@sopuli.xyz
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    31 month ago

    Long distance relationship is something I will never recommend to anyone unless you can either afford to meet-up regularly without it putting a strain on you financially, you are okay with heart break (no one I’ve met has been), or you met, matched and spent time irl before it becomes long distance.

    My personal advice based on your post alone: don’t do it (but be nice about it).

    Long distance was the worst emotional rollercoaster I’ve been through, and this is coming from someone who had a “successful long distance story” and are still together since moving in together.

    But I know that that’s not how our hearts work, so hoping you’ll get that job soon and save up enough for a visit!