sweet_pecan [love/loves, they/them]

i stole this account from my partner hehehe. Black, autistic, very literal, cant spell. you know who it is baby

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Cake day: April 12th, 2022

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  • our cis het dude friends come with us!!! just make friends with queer people!!! in fact you should be offering to escort as many trans friends/comrades as you can so they can have a safe fun night out. learn to throw a punch and look intimidating and be the cis het body guard of the group, (literally walk every single person to thier cars, especially your trans friends, even queer spaces can be dangerous) its an important part of the ecosystem and after hanging out with queer people long enough you may not be cishet after a while.


  • IT CAN BE!!! I MADE ALL MY IRL FRIENDS THROUGH ORGANIZING!! find an extrovert to lach onto who will take you to the cool places and give you ketamine!! the queer clubs want you too!! the streets love you too!! find a daytime event at a gay club if thats more your speed like drag queen bingo/ brunch, or lots of places do rupaul drag race watch parties or movie nights. trust me theres some queer place that has a dirt owl shaped hole in it, and they miss you.





  • lol youre welcome. the way i see it is that fashion is nonverbal communication. You’re constantly communicating something either intentionally or unintentionally with your appearance. Communication is essential for finding community/ companionship. if youre queer and you want other queer people to know you are queer you cannot expect them to read your mind (especially in a world where straight outing yourself to every stranger is dangerous), you need to use nonverbal communication to let them know you are in the in group. queer people have always done this. and this communication must rely on shared symbols and aesthetics, or you wouldn’t be able to communicate with each other. This goes for all subcultures. the issue is that in the modern world cis het people are appropriating queer culture at a insane rate with the internent, and things that were queer nonverbal indicators 15 years ago and now mostly worn by conservative cis hets (booooo). so it may take effort but a part of being in community with people is learning and engaging with the culture around you. and that involves keeping up the the “trends”. as long as queerness exist so will queer culture and so will queer fashinon exist as a form of communication.

    i just made a new friend at a gay club 2 days ago becuase someone saw we had similer outfits and introduced us. queer people introduce themselves to me where ever i go becuase i look queer, i can make freinds anywhere, people remember me, people approch me, i promise it genuennly makes your life better to have intentional style.