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Cake day: June 21st, 2023

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  • As a former evangelical Christian, who also dabbled in atheism, antitheism, etc, I settled into something that’s probably closest to Zen Buddhism mixed with atheism. I’ve been on dates with people, many of them I probably never knew their religion, but the gung-ho Christians and the Mormons showed their incompatibility very quickly. Funnily enough, ex-catholics dig me and I like them. :-)

    I don’t see myself dating someone who is theocratic, doesn’t believe abortion should be allowed, or wants me to go to their church with them. I sometimes tell the story of the time I was figuring myself out and ended up going on a date with a girl who didn’t believe in dinosaurs. I call her dinosaur girl. I wish her well, but man did I dodge a bullet!



  • Nowadays I run a dual 4k monitor setup with the left centered in my FoV and the right one alternating between portrait and landscape. My laptop usually sits under the primary or to the bottom left. I connect over thunderbolt so I can easily swap out my work and personal laptop on the dock. Effectively I get 3 screens: my main focus, my distraction, and my comms on the built in display. If I’m gaming on the desktop I toggle the left monitor to another input. I used to have more screens but things are a lot more ergonomic now.

    I do feel like I could switch to right monitor dominant, bit I think it would not be ideal considering sloppily moving the mouse to the top left on the primary would cause the mouse to jump to the secondary screen whereas on a left monitor dominant layout it would hit the border. You could offset the displays slightly to catch the mouse, but it’s not worth it.


  • I hate how VPN access is the scaffolding holding the building up making things look normal. You can visit all your normal web sites, you can bypass georestrictions, you can be a little less tracked than you might otherwise be. But what happens when they decide to do away with that scaffolding and we all find out they tore down the house behind it while we were enjoying “normalcy”. Too much of making the web functional depends on vpns and adblocking. We shouldn’t have to do this stuff and Chromes adblocking scandle should impact millions of users all around the world unilaterally removing adblocking from the web. I fear for the day we have a US only internet and a global internet, not just on paper, but in actual practice.














  • Almost anything can be taken too far. What’s clear to me here is that this issue is stemming from image and desired outcomes. Eating protein isn’t necessarily bad for you, drinking lots of water isn’t going to hurt you, getting exercise and building muscle is good for you. It’s when you take these things too far that they become a problem. Social media has convinced a lot of people that they’re not enough. Most people don’t realize that they are a solid 3-5 points higher on the hotness scale than they think and even us guys aren’t immune to image issues. If it feels good to exercise, if it improves your sleep, if it gives you energy, if it helps your digestion, do it! But don’t do it just because insta tells you no one will ever love you if you’re not ripped. That one is mostly your personality and there’s no supplements for that, you just have to work hard to continuously become a better person. Also, if someone doesn’t like you or even puts you down, there’s a good chance it’s just incompatability, which is okay, or maybe they’re a piece of shit human, which also isn’t your problem.

    You are fine just the way you are, and I hope that you continue to get better in a safe and sane way.