• TunaCowboy
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      It is a lot weirder to obsess over the dating habits of consensual adults.

      • @webghost0101@sopuli.xyz
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        Our definition of consent and adult is arbitrary though.

        Its 18 now for most places but for most of history you were considered an adult the moment you hit puberty.

        Scientifically we know that your brain is still developing “adolescence” till their mid twenties. We have disconnected this term from the legal definition of adults but:

        He is dating pre-adolescent women” is a scientifically correct statement and definitely an uncomfortable patterns to keep repeating.

        We also know it’s personal. Its entirely possible for a 16 year old to have a matured sense of sexual consent while someone else at 20 does not. So which one is then ethically more ok to fuck?

        EDIT: one very bad mixup of words.

        • u/lukmly013 💾 (lemmy.sdf.org)
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          67 days ago

          Not sure what way you’re heading with this, but how about neither if they’re both significantly younger?

          Just because one is legal doesn’t mean it’s ethical either.

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            Seems like you understood what i meant perfectly tbh.

            oh fuck i mixed up “post” and “pre”. “He is dating pre-adolescent women” and to me that is predatory as it is exploitative. Hopefully that cleared things up.

      • @Ofiuco@lemmy.cafe
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        7 days ago

        But muh age math-rule that totally makes sense and must be imposed to everyone!1?1!??1!?1!

        I agree with you, if they are consenting adults, everyone else is the weirdo for obsessing about it and they need a life.