Adolescents with insecure attachment to their fathers are more likely to develop internalizing and externalizing mental health symptoms, which can lead to increased alcohol use. Attachment to mothers did not show a similar association with these outcomes.
Father was never around when I was younger, he was always on the job. got abused by a trusted older relative, so it’s not in a vacuum, but definitely am an alcoholic (with over 5 years of sobriety). My mental and emotional health has been my top priority since my divorce like 3 years ago. Slowly making progress, but it all feels like way too much sometimes.
My therapist gave me a great bit of advice, in the dark at 2AM is not when you can best judge your situation. Always in the light of the next day it appears as it’s true self, and it’s not as scary then. Don’t make dramatic, life-altering decisions in the dark at 2AM.
Another strategy to get rid of suicidal thoughts, is to have something you want to do before that. Say, if you’re going to off yourself, might as well try that one thing, or punch that one person, or sky-dive, or something before you do. Not ready to pull out all the stops and do that one thing? then you’re not ready to kill yourself either. So hold off. Because pain is temporary, and joy can still be found.